The Emotion Control Frame

Background

Emotions are the ultimate goal in life. Everything you have ever done, any person you have ever met, every memory that you have is associated with an emotion.

Everything that we hate, we associate with powerful NEGATIVE emotions.

Everything that we love, we associate with powerful POSITIVE emotions.

Everything that we have ever wanted to have or to do is because of the emotion we would get out of it experiencing it.

That being said, learning how to control emotions in yourself and others is an invaluable skill to have.

I DO NOT mean using the Speed Seduction formula:

- get her to think of a romantic or sexual memory
- force her to involve you in that image

It works, but that stuff and embedded commands cross my personal moral code.

Instead, I just mean doing and saying things with the intention of making another person feel a specific emotion. IMO, that is the real key to living a well-rounded and happy life. I have started taking an emotion-control frame of mind in almost everything I do around other people. Here is what I have noticed:

- I feel happy more often because I am constantly around people that feel great emotions
- People are much more interested in hanging out with me
- I have fewer personal conflicts
- I have a much easier time communicating my ideas in social settings and at work
- I can more easily convince people to do what I think is best
- Women are much more interested in me

Forcing people to like you is hard. It's much easier to make a person like who THEY ARE and HOW THEY FEEL when they are with you. This is a really powerful approach to use in all social interactions. And it's actually pretty simple to put into practice. I took another huge step forward in my social skill-set when I put my focus on the emotions that I wanted the other person to feel.

The basic idea is to take the focus away from you and onto how you want the other person to feel. When you start to do this, you have total control of the interaction and it's a great tactic to pull people into your reality.

Emotion-based Sarging

Leading women through a rollercoaster ride of emotions not only makes the interaction more meaningful, but also more memorable. This is really key in opening, attracting, establishing rapport, and seducing.

Rather than focusing your interactions on communicating that you are high value, try structuring your sarge based on the emotions that you want women to feel. A sarge structured on emotions is very direct and effective. It also gives a purpose for everything you do in set.

When opening, for example, focus on stirring emotions of interest, curiousity, enthusiasm, humour, desire to speak mind, etc. Any emotion that opens a conversation works.

When attracting, focus on stirring feelings of curiousity, nervousness, humour, inferiority, passion, defensiveness, and self-consciousness. Any emotion that shifts value in your favour is good... within limitations. More on that in a bit...

When working on rapport and comfort, focus on vulnerability, protection, comfort, humour, trust, flattery, confidence, intrigue, and arousal. Any emotion that you feel when you are around someone you like and trust is good.

When working on seduction, focus on creating feelings of safety, connection, desire, arousal, and horniness. Any emotion that puts women in state of safety and/or sexual desire is good.

Asking The Right Questions

Rather than asking yourself what routine to use next, try asking:

1. What do I want from her right now?
2. How would she have to feel emotionally for that to happen?
3. How can I make her feel those emotions?

Then use routines if you need to, but use them with a strong understanding of what emotions they will stirr.

Have an emotion as a goal, once you have achieved it, run with it for a bit, then move on to another emotion.

Putting It Into Practice

Techniques will vary depending on the emotion you are working on, but here are a few techniques for creating these emotions in people...

1. Feel the emotion in yourself first. Emotions are contagious, so when you want her to feel a positive emotion, think of a time when you felt that emotion and let it show. Obviously, not the best technique for when you want her to feel nervous or inferior, but it works well for elliciting positive emotions like enthusiasm and gratefulness.

2. Use routines, stories, or other converational tactics that create specific emotions in people. For example, if you want to create intrigue, send mixed signals. If you want her to feel curious, tell a dramatic story with lots of suspense or tell part of a story and cut yourself off just when you start to get to the good part. If you want to experience humour, say something funny. Use jokes and anecdotes from comedians if you aren't funny yourself. If you want someone to feel confident, give her a thoughtful genuine compliment. This is an easier technique than it might seem.

3. Use past experience. Get her to describe a situation when she felt a particular feeling that you want her to feel. Get her to describe exactly how it felt and what it what about the experience that made her feel that way. As she describes it, she will relive it and feel the emotions again.

Some advice: if you are reading the forums and you come across a cool routine, take a close look at what emotions it would create in women. Then use it next time you want women to feel that emotion.

Using The 3.5 Character Frames For Stirring the Right Emotions
(credit: 60 years of challenge)

In my version of the characters model, the social guy gets two parts... hence the 3.5...

1. Be the fun social guy early (open) to create interest, fun, and curiousity.
2. Be the hard to get seducer guy to create more of the emotions for attraction.
3. Be the protective social guy to create some feelings of rapport, commonality, comfort, and safety
4. Be the sexual threat to stir some feelings of arousal.

The characters don't always have to appear in that order, but jumping in and out of these characters can really help with leading her through the right emotions.

Combining Emotions

There are certain emotions that get amazing results when put in combination together. For example, the combination of inferiority and humour that women experience with CF lines works amazing for attraction. The inferiority she feels after hearing cocky statements attracts her to you. The cockiness forces her to see you as high value and the humour distracts her defences from viewing you as an ego maniac. The humour also makes it a fun experience for her. Humour works well with teasing as well as giving compliments. It replaces the awkwardness with laughter after being made fun of or given a compliment.

Positivity Ratio

Pay attention to the ratio of good emotion to bad emotions you are elliciting. For women, try to keep a ratio of at least 90% positive to 10% negative. The negative feelings (negs, inferiority, self-consiousness, etc) can be important for attraction and they also make the positive emotions seem better by comparison. But you don't want her feeling too much negativity or she will have a negative memory of your interaction. And always close on a positive emotion.

For socializing with other guys, keep your ratio as close to 100% positive as possible. IMO, there is no logical reason to make a guy feel anything negative.

The Levels of Emotional Results

This is the best method I have ever used for achieving goals and getting results in any area of my life. Definitely works well for mastering the emotion frame control. These levels of results come from basic NLP principles.

Using the emotions associated with attraction as an example, here are the six levels of getting results...

1. Environment. The actual result (eg., women feeling attraction-based emotions for you)
2. Behaviour. What you do to create that result (eg., CF lines)
3. Capabilities. Skills or traits required for the result (eg., witt, confidence, sense of humour)
4. Beliefs and values. What you must believe to aquire the skills and get the results. (eg., "I can make any woman feel the emotions necessary for attraction.")
5. Identity and sense of self. The view/sense of yourself necessary to be congruent with your belief. (eg., "I am an attractive man with mastery of emotional control.")
6. The big picture purpose. Your objective in terms of the specific results that you want. (eg., "My objective is to naturally and smoothly make women feel emotionally attracted to me.")

To get the emotional result, the other five levels need to be in sync. When you have all six levels are in alignment with one another, you achieve true congruence, authenticity, and proficiency with emotional mastery.

Final Points

The more emotions you lead people through, the more they will remember you. The more positive emotions the feel around you, the more they will like you... and visa versa.

That's all there is to it. Master emotional control and you master your reality.